Friday, April 30, 2010

Psychotherapist wants me to write to the baby girls we lost.

He says it's obvious their loss affected me more than I let on.

I don't know if I can do it. I don't think I can convey the fact they were real to us, and then they were gone. I'm a pretty good writer. I just don't think I can convey THAT much emotion.

All of this is made worse by the fact the med change has left me with some pretty nasty depression. At least crying at work for no reason keeps my coworkers out of my office.


  1. I'm sure you love them as much as you do Little Joe.
    Maybe a simple "Daddy loves you" will get some of it out.
    Good luck, Joe.
    I only ALMOST lost my boys, and that pain alone is still haunting.

  2. Wow. I am so sorry. I had no idea and I don't know what the circumstances were but we lost twins between my boy and girl. It was early in a pregnancy and we did okay, but it was still hard. They're your babies.

    Everybody assumes it to be harder on the mother, and it's true the mother has hormones to cope with on top of actual loss, but in our situation I think my husband took it harder. Men don't get as much support, I don't think.